The Life & Style of a Fat Bougie Chick: "The Dating Chronicles of a Fat Bougie Chick" The Intro Pt.1

Hey loves! So in an effort to introduce you guys to the heroine of the upcoming "Fat Bougie Chick" E-Novellas coming this summer to a ebook provider near you (check out that plug tho! lol) I will be releasing the first episode in parts on the blog. I really hope everyone is able to connect with Reina! Understand this, while Reina and I have a lot of similarities...I am not her and she is not me lol! Reina is a fictional character loosely based on me, some of my friends and women that i've come across. She is the "plus size every woman" of today. I hope that everyone will not just read but comment so that we can have some discussion about the character and things to come. Also It would mean everything to me if you would share the blog with people that you know! Share the link, your favorite quote...whatever!! let's open up the dialog about being a confident plus size woman and dating in the millennium. Anyway...here's part 1...I hope you enjoy.

Heeey! My name is Reina, Reina Lee. I am a 30 year old, single, childless, EX party girl. I’m a little sarcastic, slightly dramatic and most definitely Bougie! I didn’t always accept that about myself. In fact I spent many years studying the ways of the ever elusive "hood chick". I watched them up close in their habitat in hopes of adopting their rituals but for some reason or another it never really stuck. So somewhere around 25 I decided to own the beauty that was ‘bougie’ and I haven’t looked back since, here it is five years later and I could damn near teach a class on it! Most people frown upon the phrase though...they think that being bougie means that you’re stuck up or attitudey. They say that bougie girls think that they’re better than everyone else and that we act like our shit don’t stink. But I’m here to clarify a few things… It’s not that we think that we’re more than anyone else, we just know that we’re not less! And it has nothing to do with being conceited, it’s just a matter of having a standard set for ourselves that we refuse to go against, usually because years of being mistreated and unappreciated will for sure make a chick learn who she is and what she deserves! And furthermore it’s not that we think that our shit don’t stink, we know that shit stinks…that’s why we just flat out refuse to do it! HA!

Now, about my visual because I know you’re sitting there thinking to yourself “How does this awesomely witty, raw and honest, appealing woman look.” (I hit it the nail right on the head didn’t I?) Well picture this: 5 foot 8 inches tall, bone straight hair that sweeps down my back, Light caramel complexion… looking like I was kissed by the 8 AM sun, and weighing in at a thick 140 pounds. With the waist of a school girl but the curvy hips of a Pepsi bottle, The booty and rack of your favorite video vixen, and virtually no stomach at all! I sound great don’t I? Too bad that bitch ain’t me!!

I mean don’t get me wrong…I’m not hating on anyone who does resemble that description it’s just that I get tired of being told and the message being sold that if I don’t look like that then I am less than attractive. Society can have a whole House of Representatives seat because that is straight malarkey!!! OK, as for the real deal... let me start off with the most important detail… I am beautiful! Period…point… blank! Not because I’ve been told a million times or because I get so much attention from the fellas but just because that’s the way I choose to see myself. And don’t get me wrong, I didn't always feel that way. In fact turning 30 had a lot to do with that awakening within myself. At some point I just got sick and tired of looking in the mirror and zooming in on the blemish that was developing on my cheek or the 3 hairs on my chin that were constantly harassing me! I got tired of policing my belly for new stretch marks and developing rolls. So one day I woke up and decided that when I looked in the mirror I’d instead focus in on the things that made me beautifully unique like my bright infectious smile or the dimple that plays peek-a-boo on my right cheek, I started to notice how my brown eyes would dance in the light and how cute my button nose really was! The day I became my own advocate instead of judge is the day that I found peace.

Ok so again, here I go: I’m 5’4 inches in stature which to me represents the average height for women but every now and then I’ll come across some hater trying to tell me that I am short…PHOOEY! Oh! And I am 299.9 pounds, the scale tries to convince me that I am 300 pounds but my scale is a dude…so clearly he lies! But see I’ve always measured my weight not by numbers but by the size jeans that I could squeeze into and currently I am on the edge of a size 20 jean...in stretch material, with a maternity waist band…so I’m feeling pretty damn good if I do say so myself! On the Candy scale of complexion I’d rate myself milk chocolate…maybe toffee (how fat is that?!) I use to be the spokesperson for the “fried, died and laid to the side” club but about two years ago I went Malcolm X on that ass and got me a fro and to be honest as tempting as its been to go back to that creamy crack and Outre Yaky, I’ve found that it is way more rewarding being able to love my hair in its natural state…as nappy as that may be! But i've found that the fellas are not always as inviting to change…and a lot of times I don’t blame the poor impressionable creatures! Men are competitive by nature so they only want what everyone else is chasing because to them that’s the way you measure success and since media tells them that European looks are what’s beautiful… me and my pro African ass could easily be overlooked. But don’t think for one second that I don’t believe that there are good, strong, foiine(fine), sexy, don’t live at home with they mommas, drive their own cars, disease free…wait, I digress …I know that there are good men out there who can appreciate a sister who is comfortable in her skin, kinks coils and all....

I'll be posting more of the intro on the first Wednesday of every month until the release of the series!! I hope you'll stay tuned!

Sincerely,

Miss Fat & Bougie

P.S. The winner of this month's subscriber Give Away is :

Stephanie Pierre